Picture this: It’s the day your new boss is coming to the office. You’ve got the perfect dress picked out to impress and know exactly which necklace to wear. You go to pick out the necklace and it’s tangled. It’s not just tangled, it’s mangled with cheap, St. Patrick’s Day beads, the gold chain you haven’t worn since the 90s, and a lanyard from your last conference. Excitement quickly turns to frustration and you wonder if you should just give up.
That’s how I felt about my life around 6 months ago. I was so excited with where my life could be headed, but all the ideas in my head tossed around into a tangled necklace mess to the point that I couldn’t pick one from the other.
Can I tell you what I made myself do (yes – forced is a better word)? I picked 3 surrounding my 1.
Let me explain.
What would you (yep, I’m turning this from me to you) do if you knew you wouldn’t fail? I don’t mean buy a lotto ticket or land on the moon. I mean what would your in-five-years life look like if you did exactly what you believe in your heart that God wants you to do? That He’s birthed inside of you?
Now say it out loud. Now write it down. That’s your 1. That’s the 1 thing that the 3 below need to point back to & support, applaud, and accomplish. For this example, we’re going to say “I’d be an executive with XYZ company, with a supportive and happy team.”
There are financial goals, family goals, spiritual goals, career goals, vacation goals, sports goals, etc etc etc goals. Now take a deep breath. Pick 3 of those and write them down, leaving plenty of space between each one.
Did you write them down? Do it. Go on.
Now erase them because you did it wrong. (bwah ha ha ha!)
Don’t just say “I want to lose weight.” That’s generic and accomplishes nothing. You need to add a few words to that: SPECIFIC, BY, STARTING, SO THAT.
“My SPECIFIC goal is to lose 20 pounds BY running 1 mile a day STARTING tomorrow morning at 8:00 am SO THAT I can fit into the suit I want to wear to my job interview to eventually become an executive.”
There you go. Now do that for other areas of your life – family, finances, spiritual life, etc. Not all of them, tho. Just pick a total of 3.
Once I did this I felt a huge burden lifted. It was as though speaking my future out loud and planning the next few months of my life untangled all the ideas in my head and resulted in freedom.